Things to think about if you have an unintended pregnancy

You might know what you’re going to do, or you might have a hard time making a decision. 

Some of these questions might help you make a decision about being hapū: 

• Does a pēpi fit with my plans for my life from here? 
• Would a pregnancy and pēpi change my plans? 
• What about my education and career? 
• How do I feel about being responsible for a pēpi? 
• Is this a good time to have a pēpi? 
• Do I have the skills and support to be a parent? 
• What is my relationship with the person I had sex with? Do I want to remain connected to them through a child? Will they help me whatever I decide to do? 
• Am I ready to be a parent? 
• Is my whānau already complete? 
• Will I tell my parents? My whānau? Will they support me whatever I decide? 
• If I have the pēpi who will help me? Where will I live? Where will the money come from? 
• Is there someone in my whānau who could support me and my child, or would want to raise my pēpi? 
• How do I feel about adoption, guardianship, or whāngai? Is there another option that might work for me? 
• How do I feel about having an abortion? 
• Do I really understand my options? 
• Have I given myself a chance to think things through — what are my options if I am pregnant?